Feb. 7: How to actually love a woman

If you want to love a woman, you'd better be able to accept love in return.

That's something I've never been able to do.

And that's probably all you need to be able to do if you want to love a woman.

Everything else - the roses, the fancy dinners, the romantic walks on the beach - is just window dressing.

Jesus warned his disciples to flee from meaningless sex. He did this out of love.

My prayer is that my son will be a better man than me.

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